Musical Missed Connections
Turnabout Is Fair Play
Missed Connections in Seattle
It has been eye opening to pursue others when usually I date those who pursue me.
When you’re pursued you don’t have to make yourself vulnerable at all, and can even take for granted the fact that you are receiving attention and even deserve to be loved.
Your ambivalence and caution hurts others but they likely won’t tell you.
When you’re pursuing another, you have to take risks with your heart.
You have to try to love someone whose reticence can seem like a referendum on your attractiveness, intelligence, and emotional health.
You have to believe that you deserve to be loved even when another refuses to do so.
If the person you pursue rejects you, even in the kindest way, it’s still done full of disrespectful half-truths and lies meant to soften the blow.
But the real blow is not to have the relationship end.
It is to feel so stupid for having made one’s self vulnerable to someone didn’t, and maybe couldn’t, care.
One Year Ago: Missed Connection in Boston, MA: You Grabbed My Legs
Her Two Cents from the Missed Connections Chief Bottle-Finder:
This message from Seattle prompts a number of responses – from empathy at the heartbreak our poet is clearly feeling to “what goes around comes around” dismissal for their previously cavalier and aloof attitude toward those interested in them. Sure, falling down and skinning your knee isn’t enjoyable but if you’re having fun on the playground, it’s going to happen sooner or later. Better to have a stock of band-aids on hand than to spend a life sitting on the bench, right?
